Neutral ‘I noticed…’ statement (no judgement)
Aim (what it achieves)
Lower defensiveness by separating observation from judgement.
When to use
When a pupil is prickly, sensitive to tone, or quick to argue back.
How to use (steps)
Teacher language (examples)
“I noticed you’re turned around. Face forward and start the first line.”
Top tips (makes it work)
Keep it factual. Use a low, even voice.
Common pitfalls
Adding labels (“rude”, “lazy”); sarcasm; long explanations.
SEND/PP considerations
Useful for pupils with trauma/attachment sensitivity to perceived criticism. Avoid moralising language.
Tags
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Used in
Behaviour Matrix
- Interrupt & Redirect Peer friction / bickering / low-level conflict
Related strategies
Face-saving exit (thank, move on)
Secure compliance while protecting dignity — reducing escalation and ‘digging in’.
Defer the debate (comply now, talk later)
Stop a public argument and return the class to learning, without ignoring the issue.
Emotion + direction (validate briefly, then move to the next step)
De-escalate while keeping the boundary: acknowledge feeling, then direct behaviour.
Calm tone + slow pace (teacher self-regulation move)
Prevent escalation by keeping your delivery steady and non-threatening.
‘Same expectation, different route’ (alternative compliance path)
Maintain the boundary while offering a non-confrontational way to comply.
Least invasive intervention ladder
Match the smallest effective response to the behaviour.